agency & communion?

a masculine person goes into a 'role' - when there is a need to show control. its a show, and its to state, "I can manage a situation, where control reigns supreme"...

Its a beast (control), whose horns he's tackling and sometimes there can be disastrous consequences...  but that adds to prove the manhood by willingness to take high risks, and once you do that, you try to reach even higher levels of risks...

the feminine role seem to have another feature, that of managing a situation by being compatible, supporting... to prove one's worth.  If anger seem to be dominant in masculinity, then fear of not being compatible seem to drive feminine style.

of course, masculine and feminine are too closely connected with gender types of man and woman.  so, i should switch to other terms like agency and communion. (gender based segregation of human qualities, i.e. grouping some human qualities into one gender, divides us as human beings..  genderless is the way to go...  just like- caste less, race less, age less, skin color less society, where every human is accepted and treated the same).   But what is agency & communion?

Agency refers to an individual’s striving to master the environment, to assert the self, to experience competence, achievement, and power. In contrast, communion refers to a person’s desire to closely relate to and cooperate and merge with others (taken from: Bakan D. The duality of human existence: Isolation and communion in Western man).  

thus, agency would be the male thing, and communion the female thing.  

the media, TV, Movies, Newspapers, Advertisement and literature (stories), keep repeating these 2 types, for male and female.  so, a female, behaving in a communion style, would have a strong sense to prove, she can be compatible with another person, to show her own self worth.  

its basically because, women would be brought up in that way, trained to believe and behave in that way mostly, through repeated conditioning.  and men too get conditioned in Agency style since childhood. 

what could evolve, when these 2 styles clash with each other?
the agency mindset, might not be able to fathom that, through communion, someone might be trying to prove their self worth'....agency mindset would see it as a sign of submission... and keep suppressing the communion style people.  

Even big groups get dominated by ONE ideology or style of few dominant members of that group.  others in the group, who do not share that ideology try to bring about a change...  and a revolution or slow evolution could be the result of this rebellion.  

of course, these 2, agency & communion are just 2 facets like yin and yang... keep balancing!