2 movies... "boyhood" and "whiplash"

boyhood and whiplash... 2 hollywood movies, i saw recently..  made me feel like, writing something about each of them. 

(i generally try not to reveal details/script of a movie, but, sometimes its not possible.. so, there is a **spoiler alert** if you haven't watched these movies)

Boyhood, with its Oscar 2015 nominations is already famous...  that it took 12 years to make where each actor ages naturally, during the 12 years, especially the protagonist / narrator, from a little child to gangly teenager and on the door of adulthood. 

for me, the cultural comparisons provided lots to think on.  how does people around the 'boy' in boyhood behave, in specific situations in Texas, USA... and how would it have been, had it been elsewhere, especially India.. or Indian movies??  of course, how does Hollywood movies typically show it and how much more realistic 'boyhood' is, can be another comparison. 

there's lots of instances of 'parenting' in boyhood... how do the kids in boyhood, the narrator and his elder sister behave? (here, inconsistencies in this elder sister character can irritate viewer, as she behaves sometime as too self centered and at other times very different).. 

though, how adults think they 'know' whats good and bad and tend to give advice in a confident manner... seems very realistic.  another thing i could identify a lot was, the disdain and boredom which the narrator shows as a child and a teen - whenever adults try hard to connect with him, and try to show they are cool.. (its not easy to figure it out, as its often subtle, or subtly sarcastic).

of course, showing the new generation, the 21st century children as so chilled out and connected with each other, especially the level of maturity and forgiveness shown by narrator was redeeming, but maybe a bit unrealistic?

the second movie, 'whiplash' is finely made, but tries to coverup a sado-masochistic relationship, between a student and a teacher in a sugar coated way... especially in the end, made me feel, its an anti human rights encourager through and through.

i would go to the extent of saying, its a "50 shades of music"... just like 50 shades of grey, which shows a sado-masochistic relationship (haven't seen that movie, but read the book)... and what irritated me most was, this movie almost try to state, hurt and anxiety is what makes good music... rather than someone enjoying it.

fortunately, many articles online, have criticized 'whiplash' for what it is, including jazz musicians, and others.  the 'control' factor in teachers, and how can a masochistic teacher argue that, he/she is doing it for the 'good' of the student seems to be shown in a positive light, rather than derided.  and, i always felt that, by being in the 'flow' is how beautiful music is created..  rather than in an anxious state, rather than through trying hard, and pushing themselves... like they are doing a bench press.  and as one reviewer had put it, this movie insults music intelligence. 

*i remember, a friend telling me about the directors cut and commercial movie cut can be different.  A Hindi movie, 'Mrutyudand' (1997) director talked about it in an interview.  In this movie, the women in a north Indian village, suffer harassment & discrimination by men/patriarchal society, and towards the end, fight back and beat all the harassers). the director said, in an interview, that last scene was 'dream like'... and unrealistic.  directors cut would have happened before that, and ended in the realistic, but pessimistic note.  similarly, i felt, Whiplash could have ended, before that last scene, where in typical movie style, the 'hero' miraculously pulls out amazing performance.  the thing is, would all the viewers have the courage to understand and accept it as a dream like scene?